“The lying, cheating husband sale”. A Canadian woman made headlines recently when she offloaded her husband’s possessions “while he is gone… with his floozie.” She placed an ad trumpeting the event, and offered, at no additional cost, for patrons to see her cheating spouse’s clothes. More specifically, the ashes of his clothes. In the driveway.
You can’t deny her impact—she vowed he would return to a near-empty house.
But it begs the question: is there a graceful way to break up with someone, or tell a spouse you want a divorce? I recall the campus lore of a scorned girlfriend whose live-in partner kicked her out when he’d met someone new. Her response was both creative and creepy: she took days to sew shrimp into the lining of the living room curtains… each time a breeze blew, the apartment filled with the scent of rotting shellfish.
As hard (or just plain awkward) as it can be, a Savvy Girl has “the talk”, out of respect to her soon-to-ex. She doesn’t leave without explanation or freeze him out, (unless of course, we’re talking about the presence or possibility of physical abuse). Instead, she tries to honor whatever they shared, and wherever possible, to leave things in a calm and mutually respectful way. Okay, we’re talking emotions here, so that’s a challenge – but we should aim for it.
How have you left suitors off the hook? And have you been “released” gently—or not?